Mary and I have been married for over 15 years. Sure, it’s not 50 or 75 years, but I like to think we have a good marriage, and I like to think I have learned a thing or two about how to stay married.
I thought I would share what I have learned.
- Every time you say goodnight or goodbye, make “I love you” be the last thing you say. If one of you die, there will be no regrets about what you said last to each other.
- Boast about your spouse’s virtues, but keep their vices a secret.
- You don’t always have to prove you’re right. Even if you are.
- If your disagreement is getting cyclical (“Yes you did” “No I didn’t” “Yes you did”, etc), stop.
- Don’t wait until Valentine’s Day or Mother’s/Father’s Day to show appreciation to your spouse.
- Do things you know your spouse hates doing.
- Every time you feel like criticizing your spouse, think of two positive things to share instead.