{"id":822,"date":"2010-08-15T19:36:00","date_gmt":"2010-08-16T02:36:00","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blog.hotpepper.ca\/?p=822"},"modified":"2014-07-10T12:17:22","modified_gmt":"2014-07-10T12:17:22","slug":"7-tips-for-a-happy-marriage","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/siever.ca\/kim\/2010\/08\/15\/7-tips-for-a-happy-marriage\/","title":{"rendered":"7 tips for a happy marriage"},"content":{"rendered":"

Mary and I have been married for over 15 years. Sure, it\u2019s not 50 or 75 years, but I like to think we have a good marriage, and I like to think I have learned a thing or two about how to stay married.<\/p>\n

I thought I would share what I have learned.<\/p>\n

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  1. Every time you say goodnight or goodbye, make \u201cI love you\u201d\u009d be the last thing you say. If one of you die, there will be no regrets about what you said last to each other.<\/li>\n
  2. Boast about your spouse\u2019s virtues, but keep their vices a secret.<\/li>\n
  3. You don\u2019t always have to prove you\u2019re right. Even if you are.<\/li>\n
  4. If your disagreement is getting cyclical (\u201cYes you did\u201d\u009d \u201cNo I didn\u2019t\u201d\u009d \u201cYes you did\u201d,\u009d etc), stop.<\/li>\n
  5. Don\u2019t wait until Valentine\u2019s Day or Mother\u2019s\/Father\u2019s Day to show appreciation to your spouse.<\/li>\n
  6. Do things you know your spouse hates doing.<\/li>\n
  7. Every time you feel like criticizing your spouse, think of two positive things to share instead.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

    Mary and I have been married for over 15 years. Sure, it\u2019s not 50 or 75 years, but I like to think we have a good marriage, and I like to think I have learned a thing or two about how to stay married. I thought I would share what I have learned. Every time […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"advanced_seo_description":"","jetpack_seo_html_title":"","jetpack_seo_noindex":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_access":"","_jetpack_dont_email_post_to_subs":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_tier_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paywalled_content":false,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":"","jetpack_publicize_message":"","jetpack_publicize_feature_enabled":true,"jetpack_social_post_already_shared":true,"jetpack_social_options":{"image_generator_settings":{"template":"highway","default_image_id":0,"font":"","enabled":false},"version":2},"jetpack_post_was_ever_published":false},"categories":[42],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-822","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-family"],"jetpack_publicize_connections":[],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"","jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"jetpack_shortlink":"https:\/\/wp.me\/p4NkW7-dg","jetpack-related-posts":[{"id":3782,"url":"https:\/\/siever.ca\/kim\/2019\/09\/18\/why-mothers-shouldnt-have-to-stay-at-home\/","url_meta":{"origin":822,"position":0},"title":"Why mothers shouldn\u2019t have to stay at home","author":"Kim Siever","date":"18 September 2019","format":false,"excerpt":"The idea that men should provide financially for the family and that women should stay home to care for the home and the family is problematic. 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